I Love My Kid. I Just Don't Love Being Touched All Day.
There’s a moment most parents don’t talk about:
Your kid hugs you.
And instead of melting into the sweetness of it, your brain quietly screams:
PLEASE STOP TOUCHING ME!Your kid hugs you.
And instead of melting into the sweetness of it, your brain quietly screams:
Not because you don’t love them.
Not because you're a bad parent.
But because your nervous system has already been through the sensory Olympics that day.
Not because you're a bad parent.
But because your nervous system has already been through the sensory Olympics that day.
Sticky hands.
Loud toys.
Someone screaming about the wrong color cup.
The dog barking.
A toddler climbing you like a human jungle gym.
Loud toys.
Someone screaming about the wrong color cup.
The dog barking.
A toddler climbing you like a human jungle gym.
And suddenly your body feels like a phone stuck at 1% battery.
The Part Of Parenting No One Warns You About
Before kids, I thought parenting was about patience.And discipline.
And routines.
Turns out it's mostly about managing your nervous system while a tiny person emotionally speedruns life next to you.
Especially if you're neurodivergent.
Because overstimulation hits differently.
Everything feels louder.
Brighter.
More chaotic.
Your brain gets overloaded faster.
Everything feels louder.
Brighter.
More chaotic.
Your brain gets overloaded faster.
And the worst part?
Your kid’s nervous system depends on your nervous system staying calm.
Which is hilarious.
Because toddlers are basically tiny chaos goblins who exist to press every emotional button you have.
Your kid’s nervous system depends on your nervous system staying calm.
Which is hilarious.
Because toddlers are basically tiny chaos goblins who exist to press every emotional button you have.
The Meltdown Echo
One day my toddler was having a full meltdown.
Crying.
Throwing toys.
Refusing everything.
And I realized something uncomfortable.
My brain was doing the same thing internally.
I wasn’t screaming or throwing things.
But inside?
Same energy.
Crying.
Throwing toys.
Refusing everything.
And I realized something uncomfortable.
My brain was doing the same thing internally.
I wasn’t screaming or throwing things.
But inside?
Same energy.
Overwhelmed.
Overloaded.
Emotionally fried.
Overloaded.
Emotionally fried.
Two dysregulated nervous systems trying to solve a crisis together.
Which, if you think about it, is basically like two people trying to steer a shopping cart with three broken wheels.
Which, if you think about it, is basically like two people trying to steer a shopping cart with three broken wheels.
The Parenting Advice That Never Helped
Most parenting advice assumes you're calm already.“Take deep breaths.”
“Stay patient.”
“Respond with empathy.”
And those things are great.
But nobody explains how to stay calm when your brain is already fried.
When you haven't slept.
When the noise feels like sandpaper on your brain.
When someone has said "mom" seventeen times in the last four minutes.
The Truth About Overstimulated Parents
A lot of parents aren't failing at parenting.They're just overwhelmed.
Especially neurodivergent parents.
We're trying to regulate ourselves while teaching a tiny human how to regulate emotions they just discovered yesterday.
It's like being handed a manual for a machine you also don't fully understand.
Why I Wrote This Book
This is exactly why I wrote:How to Parent When You're Also Overstimulated:Staying Regulated When You and Your Kid Are Both Melting Down.
Because parenting advice shouldn't only focus on the kid.
It should help the parent survive too.
The book isn't about perfect parenting.
It should help the parent survive too.
The book isn't about perfect parenting.
It's about real-life moments like:
-when both of you are melting down
-when you're touched out
-when your brain is overwhelmed but your kid still needs you
-when you're trying to stay calm but your nervous system is screaming
And most importantly:
How to recover.
How to recover.
Because no parent stays perfectly regulated all the time.
Not the Instagram moms.
Not the parenting experts.
Not anyone.
Not perfection.
Repair.
The moment after the meltdown.
The moment where you reconnect.
Where you try again.
Where both of you reset.
Kids don't need perfect parents.
They need parents who keep showing up.
Even when they're tired.
Even when they're overstimulated.
Even when the day feels like chaos.
And Honestly?
Some days parenting looks like gentle conversations and emotional growth.
Other days it looks like hiding in the bathroom eating snacks while your toddler bangs on the door.
Not the Instagram moms.
Not the parenting experts.
Not anyone.
The Parenting Skill Nobody Talks About
The most important parenting skill might actually be repair.Not perfection.
Repair.
The moment after the meltdown.
The moment where you reconnect.
Where you try again.
Where both of you reset.
Kids don't need perfect parents.
They need parents who keep showing up.
Even when they're tired.
Even when they're overstimulated.
Even when the day feels like chaos.
And Honestly?
Some days parenting looks like gentle conversations and emotional growth.Other days it looks like hiding in the bathroom eating snacks while your toddler bangs on the door.
Both are valid.
Both count.
Both are part of the story.

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